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Have you ever felt judged for your sexual choices or your sexuality?  Whether you are in politics, a parent, or just wearing a short dress, people make assumptions about you, your character, and your ability to be a competent professional based on who you did last night. Sluts and Scholars features diverse professionals who also like sex- or at least talking about it! Join us as we discuss how to navigate sexuality in this culture by having conversations that will make your sex smarter and your smarts sexier.

As a Marriage and Family Therapist (#110256) who specializes in issues relating to sex, I offer counseling services to couples, individuals, and non-monogamous folx, addressing a wide range of presenting issues from anxiety, to depression, trauma, and relational or intimacy troubles. I do my best to be informed and affirming to diverse populations and welcome sex workers, gender non-binary folx, non monogamous people, and Kink or lifestyle persons.

Meet Nicoletta

Meet Our Host

Nicoletta von Heidegger, MA, MEd, LMFT

135 - Nicoletta Heidegger - Sluts and Scholars, Healing Sexual Trauma
Sarah Buino, she her hers

135 - Nicoletta Heidegger - Sluts and Scholars, Healing Sexual Trauma

Listen to the full episode here: “We store so much stuff in our body. So, sometimes that's trauma, sometimes it's joy or whatever, and to be able to recognize, be aware and, like, feel what's happening and name it sounds like you're on your way to, you know, being connected to your body.” ~Nicoletta Heidegger  Healing is what happens to you while you’re busy recording a podcast. This is the second in a series of deeply personal conversations but, unlike the first, I did not expect a landslide of emotion. I did not intend to share my real-time revelations with you.  And yet, here we are. 100+ shows in and I feel as securely held by you, this amazing community, in this process as I did my guests Nicoletta Heidegger, MA, MeD, LMFT, who shepherded me through the spontaneous quake; and Rich Buino, LSW, my husband and post-show co-pilot. My hope is that all my messy vulnerability resonates with you and sheds welcome light on what can feel like a dark, lonely process.  For the sake of mutual safety, this episode is preceded by a trigger warning regarding sexual trauma and minor attracted persons, more commonly labeled as pedophiles. Please take care of yourself, even if that means skipping this conversation.  About Nicoletta. In addition to her work as a therapist and sexoligist, her PhD studies in human sexuality, and hosting duties of the much-lauded podcast Sluts and Scholars, she’s a genuine old soul. Her empathic, careful handling of sexual divergence has led to her focus on preventative practices for minor attracted persons even as she runs counter to our culture’s entrenched, shame-based attitudes toward sexuality. In the spirit of radical transparency, I knew that my on-air experience with Nicoletta required an equally revealing on-air debrief. Healing can take a long time, and each journey is wildly different. I am forever grateful to Rich for navigating these emotional switchbacks with me. There’s no shame in doing this work out loud and I hope that this episode helps you lean into that space. Nicoletta Heidegger is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Sexologist currently pursuing her Phd in Human Sexuality. When not seeing clients, she hosts the sex positive, shame free, educational podcast sluts and scholars. For full show notes, guest information, and resources, visit: Conversations with a Wounded Healer is a proud member of @mhnrnetwork. Let’s be friends! You can find me in the following places... @headhearttherapy @WoundedHealr @HeadHeart_Chi